Beyond Know How

Sometimes people do things that look very strange to the people around them without ever thinking to themselves that something could be wrong.  Toxic relationships are an example of this.

It is totally normal for two people in a committed relationship to hit some bumps in the road and have an occasional falling out or even some heated arguments.  It is not what any of us want, but it happens.  What is not normal, and what can lead to very bad outcomes, is when there is such a loss of respect between the partners that they do not ever seem to treat each other with even what might be considered common courtesy.  Sadly, there are some relationships that people stay in simply because it is what they are used to doing.  When the love and respect have gone and there is no feeling of joy left, it might be time to take a closer look at your situation.  Toxic relationships with others are not something that people go out looking for on purpose.  They can develop though and sometimes the people trapped in them do not even recognize them for what they are.

If you have recently gotten out of a relationships that was even semi-serious, you must be careful not to walk into a situation that could make matters even worse.  I’m talking of course, about rebound relationships.  These are the all too common result of an extremely vulnerable person walking around in the world after a breakup just looking for someone to show some sign of acceptance or interest.  This is a particularly dangerous time because we are often searching, whether we realize it or not, for someone or something to fill the gaping hole left in our lives after a loved one departs.  Some people eat too much, some turn to alcohol and others try to find some emotional balm in the arms of the first person who comes along.  Giving yourself some healing time after ending a relationship can help you to avoid this trap.

Looking back on things I have and have not done in my life, I find that one of my deepest regrets is not taking the chance to make things right with a few people after we had a falling out.  Most times I have done my best to reconcile any uncomfortable situation in an expedient manner, but there have been times that for one reason or another, the easiest path seemed to be simply walking away and not dealing with the discomfort involved in settling matters with a former friend.  In hindsight, it seems that making up would have been a much better route to have taken as I am still left thinking about what could have been all of these years later.  Sometimes it is very important to weigh our decisions and our willingness to live with outcomes.

With the help of someone who will be tapping into your energy without the limitations that your mind and the stories it has been creating, your problems can seem to disappear.  I say ‘seem’ because it isn’t that they necessarily disappear without your action, but you get a more clear sense after a psychic reading.

Phone psychics are not magicians or some type of witchcraft.  They are simply people who have developed their sense of perception and awareness to the point that they are able to feel into your energy.  By this, it is meant that they are able to sense where you may be holding on to or holding back in some area of your life.  Sure, there people that call themselves a phone psychic and have no more ability than you or I.  These people you should avoid.

photo credit: Carlos Varela

Corinth deMauriac asked George Crandle Endleman to start an advice column for the Courier. This assignment really annoyed George. He didn’t want to do it. He wasn’t going to do it.  Not an advice column when he was a serious reporter; he had submitted articles to Mother Jones Magazine and the National Enquirer.  They hadn’t been printed but they had been returned with great comments like ‘nice try’ and ‘we like your down-to-earth style.’

Corinth knew all this and, matter of fact, had given George his first serious commission.  He had put George’s story “Terrorism in Your Own Back Yard” on the front page, and he had some of the Quarter kids selling the special edition on the street corners instead of giving them away in strip joints.

Corinth knew all this but yet he said to George, “Look, there’s only us two.  We aren’t making enough money from the advertising yet to barely pay you and me.  I’ll tell you what.  This first column is going to be ‘Getting Over a Breakup,’ by Baby Sue Landry. That’s you, Baby Sue.”

If you want to learn how to get a girl then there are certain things you need to know about girls and the way they are wired. If you’ve had any close interactions with women you’ll know that they can be pretty irrational creatures. Beautiful yes but irrational.

So when you try to get a girl by doing rational things like taking her out to dinner, buying her gifts and just being really nice it usually doesn’t work. When you try to do that too much the woman will sense that you’re overly needy and insecure which means you’re weak. Women want strong men who are self confident and independent.

When you find a girl you’re interested in don’t comply with her every whim, dont cater to her every desire. When she asks you a direct question always respond indirectly or with a “no”.  This communicates strength , self-respect and women love a man who can lead and knows what he wants.

photo credit: Valentin.Ottone